[NETLINK]: Do precise netlink message allocations where possible

Account for the netlink message header size directly in nlmsg_new()
instead of relying on the caller calculate it correctly.

Replaces error handling of message construction functions when
constructing notifications with bug traps since a failure implies
a bug in calculating the size of the skb.

Signed-off-by: Thomas Graf <tgraf@suug.ch>
Acked-by: Paul Moore <paul.moore@hp.com>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>