[DLM] timeout fixes

Various fixes related to the new timeout feature:
- add_timeout() missed setting TIMEWARN flag on lkb's when the
  TIMEOUT flag was already set
- clear_proc_locks should remove a dead process's locks from the
  timeout list
- the end-of-life calculation for user locks needs to consider that
  ETIMEDOUT is equivalent to -DLM_ECANCEL
- make initial default timewarn_cs config value visible in configfs
- change bit position of TIMEOUT_CANCEL flag so it's not copied to
  a remote master node
- set timestamp on remote lkb's so a lock dump will display the time
  they've been waiting

Signed-off-by: David Teigland <teigland@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Steven Whitehouse <swhiteho@redhat.com>